‘Today I sat on a bench facing the sea, the one where I waited for L to be born, and sobbed my heart out. I don’t know if I’ll ever recover’. This note was written on 9 November 2017. As the seagulls squawked overhead and the sun dipped into the sea, Alexandra Heminsley’s world was turning inside out. Alex’s husband was going to transition. The news was delivered while their baby slept quietly in the next room. But this vertiginous moment represented only the latest in a series of events that had left Alex feeling more and more dissociated from her own body, turning her into a seemingly unreliable narrator of her own reality. ‘Some Body to Love’ is Alex’s profoundly open-hearted memoir about losing her husband but keeping a friend whilst bringing a baby into the world.